Finally Exposed & Last Post

[Sad Man]

Well, It seems I certainly got the wifes attention with the letter (as I expected) although when she called me the next day she had her doubts whether my wife was telling me the whole truth, since what was exposed was way over the line. She called back a few days ago and personally asked my wife everything she needed to, and my wife told her the whole sordid truth. She said thank you and that was that. At this point I assume he has already confessed and is nothing less that totally cornered. This poor woman had no idea what was going on, and now has some hard cold facts to face, the same ones I had to. My wife was nervous and I reassured her she did the right thing by telling the truth to her. Everything aside, all I ever wanted from the get go was for him to be a man and admit it, to let the people he violated know what they have a right to know. I don't feel one bit bad having gone into forced action mode, it seemed it was the only way to get some results. All that being said, my wife and I are trying to work this out, there is nothing more to find out and we will try to move ahead and put this behind us. I can tell you that from her telling me the whole hurtful truth (even though it came hard) it is the only reason I have been able to even think about going on with her. The truth will go on, where lies go nowhere. My buttons were pushed to the max in this whole mess, but I still maintained and persisted, getting positive results. So if you are ever in the same situation, remember to maintain your cool, accept nothing less than the whole truth (nothing wrong with mentioning a few possible consequences if you don't get it), and by all means let your feelings be known to the offender/s. Then figure out a way to put it all back together if you can, and move on. People can hurt you badly, and I have had to endure more than my share throughout my life. It is only from the past experiences that I know how to handle myself properly now. Heartaches hurts every time, but the difference is whether you can endure it without folding up or making it worse. Life goes on.............

[loon]

I hope things work out between you and your spouse. I think it is admirable that you are taking the steps to work past this situation. Good Luck!